In my past two posts, I evaluated two arguments about whether Tinder either helps the dater or hurts the dater. In my first post in my argument series, I argued that Tinder is indeed a positive tool in helping people date more conveniently. I reasoned that what makes Tinder such a helpful option is its’ immediacy and its’ proliferation of people available at one’s fingertips. In my second post, I argued that Tinder could hurt the dater because of the app’s focus on physical appearances- which can deter people from concentrating on making genuine connections. After much thought on the topic, I decided that Tinder should win this debate. Because of the technological era that we live in today, I believe that Tinder is a practical tool that definitely can help users with dating more than it can hurt them.
Given our generations’ dependency on technology and social media nowadays, its only natural that we’ve developed a more high-tech way to date. Our generation is virtually reliant on social media and the Internet, so it’s no surprise that outlets exist to further one’s love life. Thanks to modern-day technology, the act of dating is no longer confined to awkward first encounters in a dim bar or your roommate’s tacky party. Now, the act of dating can happen anytime, anywhere. From one’s bedroom at 2am in the middle of binge watching Netflix episodes, to sitting in your philosophy class waiting for your professor to finish his lecture on the illusion of time (which is actually a very interesting topic). Tinder gives its users their assistance by offering instantaneous gratification. Tinder is also a great platform that opens up one’s possibilities- on Tinder you have the power to meet hundreds or thousands of people that you might not have met otherwise if you were just dating casually without it. Tinder is basically like your wingman in a pocket!
According to what Tinder CEO Sean Rad told Business Insider, the purpose of the app’s creation is to collect users’ information to essentially create an approachable platform that allows users to meet each other. “If you’re someone who’s hunting for a relationship, there’s this constant sense of rejection when not everyone you want to meet is open to meeting you back,” he says. “As the hunted, you feel very overwhelmed and that there’s this massive sense of noise. That dynamic is an inhibitor.” Tinder gives users the opportunity to meet people from a large selection, and presents users with a platform that allows them to make connections that they otherwise wouldn’t have the chance to. In my opinion, I believe that Tinder is a great playing field for dating without physically doing so- kind of like sitting on your couch being able to sift through a large crowd of men or women without the awkwardness or hassle, in order to find a potential partner.
As for Tinder’s superficiality, lets just say that superficiality isn’t the real issue here. Its people’s issue altogether, and to blame Tinder wouldn’t be accurate. According to Justin Mateen, the creator of Tinder, “I think Tinder is very honest. It emulates human interaction. It’s like walking into a coffee shop. When you first walk in, the first thing you notice about someone is his or her physical appearance. I’m either drawn to you or I’m not. And if we engage in conversation, we notice our commonalities — like mutual friends and mutual interests, which helps establish trust between two people. Tinder is just like that. It’s not superficial unless you want to call humans in general superficial.” When people are arguing that Tinder is superficial, what they’re really saying is that people in general are superficial. As I’ve stated in a previous post before, Tinder is what we make it.
And even when compared to other dating applications, Tinder tops them all because of its’ ease of use. According to a friendly Tinder user Maggie Lamaack, “Before Tinder, creating an online-dating profile was an exhaustive process of “What do you do for fun?” and “Do you like dogs or cats?” and “Describe yourself in five words or less.” But Tinder has made online dating easy. Maybe it’s that ease of use, or maybe Tinder found a way to market an app to millennials, but a solid majority of people on Tinder are using it to find relationships, or at least to date casually.” In a nutshell, what makes Tinder such a great device in helping daters date is its’ ease of use and its’ large expanded dating pool happily ready to be sifted though. If one were truly curious about the app, I would tell them to go ahead and download it, give it a go, as Tinder definitely doesn’t hurt to try.